*The Virus From Hell has finally waved the white flag, with only the occasional dry cough to mark its passing, and we are spending the weekend at GEEC, to celebrate my mother-in-law's 75th birthday.
*I did a volunteer face-painting (tips only) run at the local mom-and-pop pizza joint on their family night, resulting in about $12, two very good contacts, and five or six cards given out to parents interested in birthday parties. Painting is so fun I would do it for free all the time, but cost of supplies make it an expensive hobby and I look forward to booking more lucrative gigs. The manager of the pizzeria fed me free dinner, though, and I was bombarded with requests to make it an ongoing thing, which I am happy to do. I need both the practice and the exposure.
*The new fence we put up last week is causing us headaches with the city zoning division, as it apparently encroaches by two inches onto our neighbor's property. The issue: it was originally HIS fence, rightfully should have been replaced by him but obviously was not going to be (as his solution to our respective dogs breaking into each other's yards was to simply nail new boards back on the rotten supports). So, being originally his fence, of course it is on his property. Apparently this means we have to ask HIM to pull a permit on it and get the city's approval, at which point the fence we just spent $1300 will legally become his. Government at its finest.
*Spent several hours discussing the pros and cons of foster-to-adopt programs with a friend who has twin daughters as a result of her fostering. Am trying not to run blazing into the sunset with my excitement over the prospect in consideration of MRB's caution, but having trouble with the thought that he might never get on board. I am not yet in a place where I could accept that gracefully.
The week in a nutshell.
DIE, Virus from Hell!
ReplyDeleteI have long contemplated adoption. L just doesn't want to for some reason. I think he is scared of it being "not his child" and therefore not feeling compelled to care for them.
ReplyDeletePS: I have a friend who is adopting and is has taken 5 years now to get the adoption to come through. They did adopt overseas though...
ReplyDeleteYes, overseas adoption can take years...often even after you've already been matched with a child. It's ridiculous and I think it's so they can wring more money out of you the longer they drag it out.
ReplyDeleteFoster placements generally happen very quickly, although if we do it we will be looking for a child under a year old, which could take some time.
It's a common fear. Most people I know who have adopted say they had it, and that it melted away the moment they saw their child. There are lots of other ramifications, of course, and it's something both parents have to commit to - hence my hope that MRB gets on board.
ReplyDeleteFortunately we know so many adoptive families we would have a very large support group.
so what will the city zoning division do if you do nothing? The fence is built and complete right? Are they going to tear it down and wait for permit to be pulled? DO they have time to do that? Did your neighbor complain? I would try the do nothing approach.
ReplyDeleteI don't know, to be honest. Fine us? The neighbor is fine with the whole thing.
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